1st Date Do’s for Men

By Rina Chong

We have the ‘dont’s down pat from my last post so let’s check out some of the do’s. If you’re doing all the do’s then you won’t have much time to do the dont’s! I hear from so many women that chivalry is dead. There may be some do’s on the list below that you’re not comfortable with, so there’s absolutely no pressure. The point is to just have fun and let your date feel special with a few tips below.

  1. Do meet in a unique public place.
  2. Do be on time or 10 minutes earlier if meeting at a public place.
  3. Do greet her at the door with a confident smile.
  4. Do stand out from the rest of the contenders and show up with a little something for her.
  5. Do compliment her on something you notice and like about her (only if you truly mean it and be wise on what you are complimenting her on).
  6. Do open the car door and doors for her.
  7. Do maintain good eye contact.
  8. Do ask her about herself.
  9. Do be an interesting date.
  10. Do make sure you’re listening and really hearing what she is saying.
  11. Do laugh and smile.
  12. Do fill in awkward moments with a quick subject change or joke.
  13. Do bring enough money to cover the entire bill if you choose to pick it up.
  14. Do offer your hand to her when she gets out of the car or offer your arm when walking together.
  15. Do pull out her chair for her, but not from under her.
  16. Do walk her right up to her door at the end of the date.
  17. Do give her a hug and if the signal is clear a sweet goodnight kiss.
  18. Do be chivalrous.
  19. Do be safe!!!

Please note: Even if you were to do everything on this list, how well the date goes will still be dependent upon the chemistry between both parties and only then will a second date be determined. Chivalry is still alive!!!

I invite you to make comments below or share some of your do’s. And if you see me at a Blenz, please come over and share your thoughts with me; would love to hear them! Until then, happy connecting, loving and laughing!

1st Date Don’ts

 

w/♥ Rina Chong @tips4gents

1st Date Dont’s for Men

By Rina Chong

1. Don’t be late!
Be on time, but don’t be too early if you’re picking up your date ,so they don’t feel rushed. Be 10 minutes earlier if meeting at a public location, so you’re able to greet them when they come in.

2. Don’t show up all ‘blinged out’ and overly dressed up
And don’t top off the look with a bath in cologne beforehand.

3. Don’t go overly extravagant
Yes, it’s great to want to impress someone; however, if you really can’t afford to do so, you will be setting the bar too high and often expectations will set in.

4. Don’t go to places that you’re infamous for
There’s nothing worse than taking your date somewhere you stumbled out of last Friday or that is your claim to fame for serial dates there. Plus, you don’t need the constant interruptions/distractions when you’re getting to know someone…which takes me to the next point.

5. Don’t be distracted
Give your date your full attention. That means leave your cell phone on silent and keep it off the table. Always make eye contact while speaking and listening. Gentlemen, if you have wandering eyes keep them in check at least for the duration of your date.

6. Don’t order a messy meal
This is the time to really communicate and get to know someone rather than focusing on not to get ribs, wings, burgers, etc. all over your face and clothes (or off your face and clothes). Tip: Never order for a lady unless you know exactly what she likes.

7. Don’t get drunk
This is very important for your first time meeting. You want to be on the ball, so you don’t make any bad judgments and you want to remember what you learned about her, so you’re not asking questions that she already answered on the first date. Unless you’re taking physical notes, keep your mind clean and clear so you’re memory will be in check.

8. Don’t talk about your exes
If they do happen to ask, keep it short and light, speak of them with respect. No one likes to hear what a bad mistake you made.

9. Don’t do a magic trick when the bill arrives
This is always a touchy one because times have definitely changed. If your date offers to pay for their share ,it’s up to you if you want to accept it. Either way, always be prepared to pay for the entire bill if you have asked someone out. *Save the coupons for when you enter the Couples Community.

10. Don’t invite her to your place for a night cap
Unless it is completely mutual and your signals are absolutely clear, one-night stands are not recommended nor what gentlemen do. This is not high school anymore, it’s not cool and you will ruin your reputation not only in the dating community, but in your social blueprint if you’re constantly running into people that you have slept with; not to mention the chances of catching a disease these days runs higher. Ew.

And with that note, the most important thing while dating is to have fun, be you and be safe! One last tip for your books: If something came up and you are not able to make it, DON’T wait until the last minute to cancel a date! She’ll be happy that you gave her enough time to make new plans! Happy connecting, loving and laughing!!

1st Date Do’s for Men

w/♥ Rina Chong @tips4gents