Oh the glorious days of finally find ‘the one‘! Life is grand and dreamy with a ‘plus 1’ and you could never imagine life without that person and can’t even remember what life was pre-partner; until the honey moon phase starts to dwindle and come to a screeching halt and reality sinks in. All of a sudden ‘stuff’ seems to appear that you didn’t think existed and now your partner brings out another side of you. A side that you didn’t even know existed. Besides getting new bodies every 7 years, our experiences are always changing from the cause and effect of our choices as we grow and change emotionally/chemically continuously.
When you work on yourself by taking care of your Self first and foremost, inner being most important as your body, through cells, emanates how you feel and everything that you have ever wanted starts coming together. Why? Because it’s the law of attraction by the Universe and it will move mountains for what you wish for. If you are unhealthy, chances are that you are, or will be, with someone who is unhealthy as well. If you are active you will be with someone who is active. If you are religious you will be with someone religious and so on and so forth. I love Gandhi’s quote below:
If we could change ourselves, the tendencies in the world would also change. As a man changes his own nature, so does the attitude of the world change towards him. …We need not wait to see what others do.
If you are in a toxic relationship it is because you are toxic yourself and to yourself. A healthy person would not allow themselves to be in an unhealthy situation or continue to be in a relationship that has turned toxic. Your partner is a reflection of you. When people are not happy with their partner they try to change them or give them ultimatums. If compromise doesn’t work then the news flash that they are who they are is the headliner on tonight’s evening news. Better to look within yourself and start making necessary changes if you want the energy around you to change. You attract what you vibrate and Universe delivers to you exactly what you ask for. It may take days or years or even decades but when it arrives you will know.
If you find that you attract the same type of person, or are always in the same kind of relationships (even though each person is unique) chances are it’s not them, it’s YOU. So don’t be so offended when someone says the classic, “It’s not you, it’s me.” When you awaken to the realization that the environment with which you surround yourself and the people that you surround yourself with is a reflection of you; as well, when you take ownership of your choices and know that everything that you have created was by you (the creator), you then start to make the changes that you want to see in others in yourself.
By doing that you attract the same energy and all of a sudden you are hanging out with like minded people or you have a partner that is all that you were looking for because you are that person. Find your equal, lead by example.