It seems when you enter a new relationship you fall in love overlooking the red flags because as they say ‘love is blind’. If love is blind then what sees clearly? Why is it that when we fall in love we don’t see the red flags or we choose to over look them? Why is it even called a red flag at the end of the relationship when hind sight is 20/20? The characteristics of what we first fell in love with seems to annoy us later down the road. I remember dating a really funny guy. Like super funny, cute. He made me laugh with all his jokes and silliness and then months down the road when the honeymoon stage was over his jokes didn’t make me laugh anymore and he was the worst comedian I knew. I asked myself how in the world did I end up with this clown? Then I started to wonder how I ever thought he was funny in the first place. What makes up for all the red flags in the beginning that our tolerance level drops significantly later on in the relationship?
I find as time passes and I get more experienced with spotting the red flags that I didn’t see with the last guy so it becomes more apparent with the next (but love like you’ve never been hurt)…and much easier to ‘next’ him; if you know what I mean. But maybe the red flags are to test our acceptance or our love for one another. No one is perfect and you’ll never find that special someone that will be your everything. They say 80/20. Brutal. So the things that they are not, or the things that they do that you find annoying, you will accept because it is part of who they are and how they were when you first met them. Without those things they wouldn’t be who they are and who you fell for. You don’t have to love their faults or habits but just know that if it’s not one thing with someone it’s another with someone else and just accept them. The grass is never greener on the other side…just a different shade and sometimes the shade is called vomit…but that’s another blog.
Love is blind and so sought after, how about just dive right in or you’ll never know. I’ll keep going to my routine eye tests. So if practice makes perfect then NEXT! I seem to attract red flags, I mean overlook them! All my friends tell me I’m too nice, but those red flags will always keep appearing if you don’t change the way you do things in the ways of attraction. They also take place in your heart to make you smarter next time. So for the sighted see your floor and know when to let go of the button. Have fun riding that elevator!!!