When you have figured out your ‘why‘ in life, you must then decide on what you want to do, be and have. How do you want your life to look like? Will what you are doing right now get you to the life that you deserve? If you continue what you are doing for the next 5 – 10 years what will that look like for you and your family? Many people decide what they want their life to look like based on their current situation. What I tell my clients is to take 20 – 45 minutes with their journal and blue ink, and write down, if money wasn’t an object, all that their hearts desire. This step is THE most crucial because one of the main reasons why most people don’t get what they want is because they haven’t decided on it yet. It’s like going to a restaurant and not knowing what to order, but when you do boy are you ready to order! Don’t think there is anything wrong with you if you don’t know yet, early childhood programming usually gets in the way of what you want. It has been a seed that has been planted and growing in response to your parents, teachers, coaches, mentors and other role models as you were growing up. Remember as a baby, and young child, when we wanted something we would cry for it or stomp our feet for it or throw a fit. And guess what? We got what we wanted.
But as we got older we started listening to other people, telling us no, don’t do that, you can’t do that, you shouldn’t do that, stay away from there, you don’t really want that, money doesn’t grow on trees, stop being so selfish and I’m sure you can add a few more to the list. We start living someone else’s dream, we start doing what our parents wanted us to grow up to be and after years of being broken down and controlled we eveutally lost touch of the desires or our own hearts and live life trying to figure out what we should do based on society or what our family or partners think we should do. We end up becoming numb to our own desires. How do we reconnect with your real passion?
“The greater danger for most of us is not that our aim is too high and we miss it, but that it is too low and we reach it.” ~Michelangelo
First off you need to dig deep. Unless you are constantly working on Self by reading, taking courses to develop your spirit, as well as surrounding yourself with people that support you and bring out the best in you, then most likely you aren’t taking the time that you need to get clear about what you want by putting your needs and desires first. Some may call it selfish, I call it ‘selfull’. Putting other people first is merely a habit that can be replaced with another habit, and that’s by putting #1 first. Make an ‘I want’ list. This list can be anything, for example: 30 things you want, 30 things you want to do, 30 things you want to be before you die. Have FUN with this because anything is possible! But if worrying about making a living is stopping you then it’s time to think outside of the box. Why can’t you make money doing what you love to do? Think about Tiger Woods, he gets paid to play a sport that he loves. Oprah is worth millions because she loves to hang out with people and chat. Whatever your boss does (if you have one) is what he/she loves to do. Your vision must be clear. Where you are now is not where you are headed. In this exercise the ‘how’ is not important. But what is important is that it will fuel the flame and your desire, to give your life some spark again, a life of purpose and dreams come true.
I encourage you to to pursue the life that you wish to have and that you so deserve. Just decide where you want to go, get in the proper vehicle that can take you there, but first learn how to drive it. You could be going the fastest anyone could go on a bicycle but it’s still a bike. And you could be the leader of the rat race but you’re still a rat. Get into a Bugatti, and get ready to head to your final destination. But first off decide. Decide what you want your life to look like and never let anyone talk you out of your vision. They may say you’re crazy, and say you’re never going to acheive it but when you hold a vision so strong and when you believe you achieve. Start hanging out with people that not necessarily have the same vision but believe that you can.